Dale, Dale, Dale

Dale just can't keep out of trouble in the health care world. For many weeks he has complained about headaches, multiple sinus infections, nose bleeds, and constant fatigue. He was given a nasal flush system several weeks ago which he faithfully uses, yet, the condition worsens. Yesterday, his temperature rose to 100.8° and his nose was swollen, red and feverish with immense pain. His balance was off, minimal energy, and a bit out of touch with reality.

Off we go to hospital.

Swollen eyes, nose and face, much improved from hours before photo. 

His temperature and pain levels have fluctuated through the night and day, up and down, then up again. His skin was pale and thin and did not retain normal colors until several hours of medications. His nose, face, and eyes have swollen. The nurse reported that his eyes look much better by the time the picture was taken. He doesn't look good to me. Feverish, clammy, and hurting.

They did x-rays for kidney and liver infections, blood and nasal cultures. So far, the only determination is that it is not a viral infection. The CT scan shows a lot of sinus blockage. After some pain medication, antibiotics, and eventually steroids, he will need to see an ENT for further investigation of the cause and the next step. I suspect there is a surgery in the near future.

The ER treated Dale aggressively as he is still prone to infections and other ailments. White blood counts are high--indicating infection, someplace. Tonight will be the second night of hospital stay. Hopefully, he will home tomorrow--he has chores to do around the home:)

Mantle Cell Lymphoma Residual Issues

This week Dale was given the OK to upgrade from the 6th month cancer checkup to the once a year cancer check up. Five years and two months since bone marrow transplant and it is looking as good as it should at this time.

However;

Dale needed another colonoscopy in the first week of January this year due to symptoms and issues he continues to have. And yes, it was good he did so even if his previous one was about 18 months ago, and was "clean." Numerous suspicious polyps were found (doctor quit counting them). Besides the number of them, there were no other issues with the numerous polyps. Doctor told him it would be best to have another colonoscopy annually.

Since January, Dale has been light headed, weak, felt numbness in his legs and chest pains. After a CT scan it was discovered that the lower left quadrant of his heart had some blockage. He was scheduled for the stress test this week.

However;

Saturday, breathing, sweating, numbness, and chest pains took him to the ER; who, after much deliberation, transported him to hospital for observations, heart and oxygen monitoring.  Monday the stress test will be given and perhaps more information will be discovered. Perhaps a stint will be inserted. I know nothing more.

However;

The cancer doctor told him as she looked over the many doctor visits Dale had in the previous six months after she saw him last, that although the mantle cell looks good, the rest of his body is high risk for issues. And it would be best to continue to work with the cardiologist, urologist, and have the colonoscopy at least annually.

However;

Life is still good to us. We have good people around that assist and support. We can do this.

CELEBRATE the LIGHT

A few weeks ago, doctors modified Dale's diet by excluding milk products and gluten. He has lost over 30 pounds and feeling much better. Who knew? Such a simple change making a huge change in Dale's overall health conditions. Simple??? Milk, cream, cheese, wheat, breads, pasta, and breading is everywhere. Gone. And we had just purchased Tillamook cheeses and Ritz crackers! So I take those to work and have one slice of cheese and 4 Ritz crackers for lunch. I may as well go on the same restrictive diet as it is healthy eating and in the meantime, gently finish off what we do have of the forbidden foods. The things we spouses do for each other!

In the meantime, I have a need to CELEBRATE the LIGHT I feel. Dale and I now look at our marriage as before Cancer, CANCER, and after Cancer. Since 2011 at diagnosis, life has been pretty tough with not only cancer but life and its many challenges. Some challenges directly related to cancer, others not.

During CANCER, we made it through with many, many people supporting us. We sold a home, built another, sold it and sold another, blending both homes into one and moved into our new home eight houses down the street.  We've completed the basement in the new home and decluttered the yard (taking out about 7 trees and 12 shrubs) and fine tuned other landscape pieces ( I did much of the work under Dale's imaginative & creative directions and supervision). Dale's fragile health forced him to retire. I completed my dissertation--slowed down during CANCER, but still completed it. It is a good study and if the reader wants to read it, send me a message and I will reply with a direct link to the study as it is published online.  My work conditions turned from united supportive colleagues to oppressed strangers when I was transferred to a new setting. Almost two years ago, we were told that CANCER was back and we geared up for several hospital stays. Fortunately, it was not cancer and explained in previous blog postings.

Other fragile health issues have continued through the months of after Cancer. Dale has maintained reasonable health (especially with new diet restrictions), completes what chores around our home as he can and has completed over 250,000 names in the indexing system for genealogy purposes. He is a volunteer for a church supported employment center and also volunteers at the VA. His good days are increasing as the bad days decrease.

I did not realize the depth of my own oppression until a new leadership team was formed. A few weeks ago, I pondered my life and felt joy. A joy I have not known for a few years.  During CANCER, survival comes to mind. I was reminded of my neglected hair styles during CANCER and now after Cancer even my hair style is updated and cared for.  After Cancer gives me a focus on life's blessings and hardships blended into what we call challenges. We have done hard things and we are okay. There is reason to CELEBRATE the LIGHT I feel. And perhaps I would not know the magnitude of that joy without the blessings and hardships called CANCER.

Perhaps it is the season. The LIGHT shines bright within our home with seasonal lights, displayed nativity scenes, and sparkling lights twinkle on the tree and front porch trimmings. The cold crisp winter air, sun glistening on snow topped mountains, and snow storm forecasted for the week brings me into a cozy feeling of chestnuts roasting on an open fire....I feel the joy of the Christmas Season with a deeper understanding of the LIGHT and #ASAVIORISBORN. We can and have done many hard things. The joy is known once again.

Forced cleansing works

Forced cleansing must work because Dale reported he has not feel this good for a long long time. He did two days of chores all in one morning and still had energy to spare. Seven days of diarrhea must have taken all the toxins out of his system. He feels like a new person.

The diagnosis from tests and observations is diet control, i.e. low carbohydrates and no lactose for a month and check back with both his regular physician and the gastroenterologist for further checkups on the biopsies from the procedures.

I guess I need to finish off the ice cream, yogurts, milk, and cheeses all by myself.

Surprises that aren't really surprises

Dale has done relatively well and then, perhaps, it just seems that his bad health is normal. He is constantly plagued with diarrhea which precludes him doing much outside of the home. We carefully plan outings around when he eats and where bathrooms are located.  He has a quick exit bench week at church and knows where bathrooms are anywhere we go. Many times, as soon as we get home, Dale makes his way to the bathroom, just is time.  When he has a day of his situations, it exhausts him physically and emotionally. Fortunately, for both of us, he cleans up the bathrooms of the situations and does his own laundry--sometimes two or three times in a day. This behavior normally goes on for one to two days and then he is okay for three or four days.

This week it worsened. Vomiting added to several situations, laundry loads, and bathroom cleanups made it more complicated. Plus, this behavior continued four days with no relief in sight. Nothing would stay in one end or the other. He thought he may have C. Diff. (Clostridium Difficile Colitis)  which he had many times during the cancer year. After a visit to the ER, it was determined that it may be a good idea to keep him at hospital for more testing as he was clearly dehydrated and fatigued.

One night has turned into two nights/days so far. Tests determined it is not C. Diff.  Another test of the specimens are being completed now which takes time. Those results demanded one more night at hospital. I was with Dale for several hours today. Every hour there was another bout of diarrhea even though he had eaten very little. As he ate dinner, the nausea took over, he vomited and was in the bathroom within a few minutes. His innards gurgle and sputter. He is weak and discouraged.

It was not a surprise when it was determined he needed to stay for more tests, more observations, more data on his condition. It was not a surprise that it is not as simple as C. Diff. could have been. And it won't be a surprise if they say, they don't know what is going on. Dale has reported his diarrhea condition to each doctor he goes to. Each has given a pill to help. It hasn't. He has an appointment with his internist this week who was beginning to look a bit deeper into his condition. There will be plenty of new data for him now.

Four conditions

We traveled north to the Tetons. It was a good thing for us to do. First vacation with no agenda attached for many years. The travel was quiet and calm with minimal traffic. The ride together was good. Both of us had several moments of leaving-the-rest-of-the-world-behind and enjoyed each others company, the wonderful mountains, and the the fresh Spring surroundings.

Teton Mountains

I write this blog entry today to update health conditions. Dale reports fatigue, weakness, and overall not feeling well. The trip verified his inability to travel. We carefully planned eating around bathroom access and took frequent breaks. I enjoyed the beauty, he enjoyed the time to rest. I brought a book to read, but to my surprise, he wanted to play cards (something he normally detests!) We spent uneventful, quiet, relaxing time playing cards in the cabin with the rain pounding around us for a few hours. Nice!

Dale's diabetes seems to be causing discomfort. His digestive system is sensitive and even though they have tested and looked for causes of the constant diarrhea, they say nothing is wrong. He is working with physicians to determine healthcare plan for his back and neck pain. Pain shots seem to help but can't be injected as often as needed.

Four conditions: Fatigue, diabetes, digestive system, back/neck pain. But no cancer that we know of. However...he feels miserable most of the time.  His main exercise is the domestic chores around the house, which I soooo appreciate. Dale has become a creative culinary artisan. He needs frequent rests and paces his chores. He does more than he should health-wise, but emotionally-wise what he can do.

Receiving the Gift

Although Dale's last few days have been miserable, I feel spiritually fed and uplifted.  One night he was rechting from one end with horrible diarrhea and vomiting from the other all at the same time. Miserable, miserable.  Unfortunately, I have become accustomed to his nightly routine of sickening sounds and constant night bathroom walk-abouts. But that night was unusually miserably miserable. I got up and readied for a day of work, checked on him one more time before leaving for the day, and found that he was white, fragile, and scared. I stayed home with him, transported him to one of his doctor's appointments, and moved into the care-taker mode again. His needs and fears are great and reasonably so.

Dale's fragile whole body health waivers more so in the winter. Today is the winter solstice which means it is the last of the long nights. That is good. A neighbor suggested that Dale should get his lawn mower/snow blower out (no snow in the valley this year) because he seems to feel better when he can mow the lawn/clear the walks. We chuckled, but there is some truth to that. Dale's need of nature is mostly manifested in the Spring outdoors cleanups and summer yard work. He loves a well groomed and colorful yard. I am blessed with a comfort in knowing nature takes care of us as we take care of it.

Another neighbor gifted about 40 friends with a Christmas dinner in her home. Her husband passed away a few months ago, yet she gifted each of us with love, friendship, and the gift of the Light of Christ in this Christmas season. Dale was not present, however, the love and concern for his well being was deeply felt by me. I felt blessed to be among such caring neighbors.

Saturday, we spent a few hours at one of Dale's son's home with the grandchildren. Dale was able to maintain well enough to enjoy those great children. What a delight! These moments with grandchildren are cherished. I feel blessed in playing legos, reading letters, and admiring coloring skills with one, giggling with his sister while playing catch with her life-size doll, and teasing the little one with his big car.

Today, Sunday, I attended church without Dale. He feels better, but that is a relative statement. Better than Friday, not as good as Saturday, worse than Thursday, and not comfortable enough to be around many people (germs), wearing Sunday best (sitting a long ways away from a bathroom), and too weak (still white in color) to sit for a period of time. I had not been able to practice with the choir, however, was involuntarily volunteered to sing with them in today's production. I feel blessed for that experience of singing praises among choir members (and angels who sang with us) and thus, feeling filled with the love of the season with those who shared musical testimonies of Christmas Joy.

Later, I was asked to give the Christmas lesson to the women's auxiliary meeting. I shared Christmas Joy, Love, and the Gift of Christmas (#ShareTheGift). I feel blessed that I was given that opportunity to share Christmas with others.

I believe in the goodness of people. I believe as we care for one another, pray together and for each other, goodness happens.

I believe Dale's health miserableness is a residual of chemotherapy, winter depression, and unknown weakened medical conditions lingering within his organs. I believe his miserableness continues because there are lessons to learn, people to care about, gifts to give, and gifts to receive. I choose to receive those gifts with joy and love, as I have felt in the past several days.