Trouble ahead

We are in trouble. I feel that Dale should have whatever he wants since he made it through over 1300 hours of chemotherapy with grace (sans constant diarrhea) and survived it. He thinks I should have anything I want since I managed EVERYTHING so well. Now what? Should be easy, since we "want" similar things, however, it takes away those passionate discussions we used to have convincing one another in wanting the same things. So be it for communication skill development. Surviving cancer brings unpredictable changes in relationships.